Really. Over. It.

Everywhere I turn, there's someone else Monday morning quarterbacking my life.  From how I unload groceries to how to manage trauma.  I like to think it's because people care...or do they?  It feels sometimes more like they just wanna be right or come off like a life guru.  Hey, look at me and my jazz hands with spirit fingers...I gots this life stuff figured out so listen up e'rbody!  1) No body likes a show off and 2) usually the people with all the opinions don't have anything figured out.  I have yet to get forced upon advice from someone who's life I look at and think I'd like to take a cue from them.  Nope.  It's always the folks who really should stay in their lane.

There are the people who do genuinely care and I believe they honestly think it's helpful to give feedback on every little move I make.  They know I'm struggling with depression from 13 years living with a bully and a divorce that's dragging on unnecessarily except for the fact a narcissist finds joy  in other people's pain.  This is the obvious, outward, visible part of my life not going well.  What they fail to notice is all the things I'm doing right. My life has crumbled like a Nature Valley Oat bar and still I march on. 

I don't feel sorry for myself, I don't marinate in my problems or tug at heart strings for sympathy.  I don't go around running my mouth about my woes to anyone who'll listen.  I am dependable, responsible, accountable.  I do my job and I do it well.  I fulfill my promises, pay my bills, care about other people, I show up every day for life even when I want to hide under the covers and cry.

This is my 3rd post on the same issue...people who like to hear themselves talk.  People shoving unwanted advice down your throat.  People oversimplifying your journey.  People ramrodding every conversation with their opinions. 

Preachers, know it alls, self appointed life coaches and that guy on the corner of a busy intersection with a bullhorn, a soap box and a Jesus Lives posterboard...listen up.  Do not mistake the gift of gab with the art of conversation.  Flapping your jaws the fastest and loudest doesn't make you more credible nor does it ingratiate you to people or foster any kind of legitimacy or credibility for your spoken word.  

If someone cares about your 2 cents, we will seek YOU out, we will come looking for it.  Stop trying to come in the back door by kicking it off it's hinges.