I think we’ve all experienced it...someone you thought was already on your “friend” list suddenly sends you a new “friend” invitation. I’m not talking about FB hacks with forged pages, or the people who had to take a page down for personal reasons and then have to start a new one. I’m talking passive aggressive behavior. I’m talking using that keyboard like a sword to sever the connection. I may not like something another “friend” posts. Big deal. If you hurt my feelings in real life or I hurt yours, we work it out and move on. I don’t start cancelling friends and family over momentary friction.
Conflict is a fact of life and so is conflict resolution. I expect my friends and family to display emotional intelligence in the face of a post they don’t like (as will I) as well as display emotional intelligence if I’ve unknowingly OR knowingly offended them in real life (as will I). If they remove me from their FB friend list and try to add me later when their temper tantrum is over and I’m in the dark on why I got removed in the first place, it says to me they don’t have coping skills in addition to the realization maybe we weren’t as close as I thought we were. I’m not going to waste time wondering what I did, I will just get back to living my life and let them be. I love my Uncle, but he is a huge offender of removing and adding. He has VERY strong views and a fragile ego. Not to be confused with low self esteem...he’s got plenty of self esteem. He doesn’t have coping skills. But if you do something he doesn’t like, you’re out. Done. No warning, no discussion, he ices you out. When enough time passes that he’s over it, he’ll send a FB invite to put you back on his page. I will comment on it when the new invites come “hey, we should ALREADY be friends, what gives?”. He will offer a lame reason that doesn’t make sense leaving huge gaps in credibility. I’ve played his passive aggressive virtual game by accepting each new invite. I just got a new invite again this morning. WTF with this petty shiz? BTW, I don’t post about politics, religion, I don’t curse, I keep everything rated PG. I have a lot of biz contacts on my FB page, so I keep it professional with family vacation pics and random fun. I can not imagine in my wild dreams why he’s removed me from his list again, but I understand he does this to all of us. I will always be his family and when we see each other, I have nothing but warm feelings towards him. I simply think we have no business being FB friends and we’ll leave it there unless he can articulate what’s going on. I expect accountable behavior on FB the same way I do in real life.
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