I was watching The Big Bang Theory and heard a new word.  I like the way it sounds, but I don't know this word!  I look it up.  Pedantic is a state of pedant.  Naturally, I need to know what "pedant" is and look that up next.  It's a noun and means a person who is excessively concerned with minor details and rules.  My.  New.  Favorite.  Word!  I realize the world needs all kinds of thinking and all kinds of personalities.  I can dig it.  Certainly there are times I want someone super detail oriented.  Like brain surgeons.  Or whoever is working on that illusive cure for cancer.  The guy detailing my car...I love how he Qtips my air vents & dash crevices to remove dust...makes my 2007 vehicle look virtually new! 
 
However, I do get frustrated when people get so hung up on minuscule details that they interrupt the flow of a conversation or bring it to a screeching halt.  For me, it's like I'm roller skating.  I'm picking up momentum, getting a groove going and someone shoves a stick in my wheels.  If it's pertinent, I'm cool.  If it's not pertinent, it's a waste of everyone's time, in my opinion.  Save your breath.  There are some things that simply do not warrant a full throttle break down of every little detail.  If someone is talking and mention they're eating a chicken salad sandwich when something worth repeating happens to them, but I specifically remember it was in fact a tuna fish salad sandwich, I do NOT stop the story to correct them.  You know why?  Because it has absolutely zero bearing on the story.  The story isn't about chicken salad OR the tuna salad, it's about something else entirely.  Who the frickin frackity frick cares what they were eating?  I want to hear about the REAL story!  The menu was merely to offer a frame of reference so we know they were eating a meal when the story worth repeating first broke.

So...yeah, UNLESS we're recording history for future generations to benefit and learn from, do we really care about an inconsequential detail? Is there a hidden consequence if we think the story teller was eating chicken salad when in fact, they ate tuna salad?  Let the story continue without undue interruption, please and thank you.  

But....that's just me.   

When someone tells me their mind never stops working or implies they have a superior brain because they can't turn their mind off, I immediately want to roll my eyes.  Why is it every time I hear that rationale, it's from a pathetic man child who is talking down to me?  Just because I smile often and sleep well doesn't make my brain less than yours.  What I hear when someone uses that bull shit rationale is "I am an anxious mess. Not only do I lack the skills to get my mind focused, I will act like a narcissistic prick and somehow try to make you feel bad about MY anxiety while simultaneously implying you are not very bright".  

In case you're curious, here's what had happened.  A guy sent me a text and when I didn't respond at lightning speed, he hit me up with a rude text telling me he questioned my character in a text rant and signed off by telling me I was cowardly for "ghosting" him.  The time lapse?  12 minutes.  This fool looses his shiz in 12 minutes over an unanswered text.  Red flag?  You betcha!  Newsflash...text, by design, is meant to allow people an opportunity to respond at their convenience, not yours.  Text is not instant gratification guaranteed.  Texts hang in cyber space until the recipient has a moment to respond.  That's the whole beauty of the sum bitches...they don't require your instant attention!

I let him know, politely because I won't let his actions dictate mine, this would be our last exchange, thanked him for sharing time with me, wished him well and said I was confident he'd find a girl who is operating at his speed.  I am not that girl.  He replied with a faux apology.  Here's what I mean by "faux" apology.  He replies "hey, I'm sorry, but what was I to think when you didn't respond?  I thought we hit it off and here you ghosted me, surely you can see my side!  I have a quick wit, fast mind and it never stops.  I'm always thinking and not everyone's mind works as quickly as mind does."  Oh boy.  Dude.  You're a mess.  Not a hot mess.  Just a mess of a man.  Sadly, it's not the first time an anxious man child has tried to convince me I was less than smart because I slept well, smiled a lot and didn't freak out over the smallest things.  Boy...BYE! 

Since then, I've received 4 additional texts saying he can't believe I'm throwing away a good thing and he hopes I'll try and put myself in his shoes.  This does not deserve a response as we were not a "good thing", we went on ONE awkward date.  Besides, even if we had a good run, you betchur ass I'd hit the road after the hissy fit he's throwing.   I had to block the man child and his "superior" mind.     

I've been on a dating website now for a few months.  I paid for 6 months membership, but I am considering deleting my profile completely.  Here's why.  I feel like I'm doing this in reverse.  It's not hard to make a connection on line.  I can talk to anybody about anything.  It is not as easy to find a physical connection, however.  I need to feel some kind of attraction and photos aren't always the best gauge.  I don't like to hurt people's feelings.  Last week, I met a guy who was fun to talk to, but I knew immediately I wasn't physically attracted to him.  He was also moving way too fast, so I thought that would be my out.  Hey, thanks for sharing some time with me, but we're operating at different speeds.  Good luck to you, I know you'll do just fine finding someone who will be moving at your speed!  Unfortunately, he wouldn't let it go.  Lot's of questions, what changed for me, what can he do to keep me interested, what if he slows down some, etc.  Oh boy.  Why can't he take my graceful bow out and go on to the next girl that pops up on his page?!

Let's face it.  You have to feel a physical attraction in order for it to go anywhere.  I can talk to anyone, but with no attraction, we're back at square one.  I dunno if on line dating is my answer.  I'd still recommend on line dating sites to anyone with a busy schedule, but I may point out you will be moving in reverse.  Be prepared to .  I think I'll try the ole organic method.  Meet someone, feel a physical attraction, then learn more about them.  Because it all starts with sexual chemistry, then maybe that's where and how I start?  I need to take this out of reverse and put it in drive!